Imagine a five year saying to his mom or dad when offered a shiny new toy, “not now mom, although that toy looks wonderful I am not quite ready to have that yet.”
Sound impossible. Probably. Something we should do as adults. Absolutely.
It is very difficult to delay gratification and overcome instant reward and pleasure. The five year old’s response is not very typical for a five year old and it is not the conventional response of an adult. We want it now is the more predictable reaction.
We want the cutting-edge phone, the luxurious condo, the higher paying job, the swankiest car and of course a blissful relationship with your partner. We want it now seems to be today’s rallying cry.
I think most of us would not mind having the life of this select few. Owning a home, having a job and driving a swanky car are what people strive for and go in debt for. Having these things does make living your life easier and people looking from the outside would think that things look great.
But if they had a clear view would they see that things are better? Would they see that these people’s lives are more fulfilling? Would they know about the financial burden and emotional costs paid to achieve what they have right now? And knowing the real picture would they still want what the select few have?
I am not sure what the answers would be. I would assume though that some would gladly take it now. But I would hope that some would overcome the immediate satisfaction and just live their lives not worrying so much about meeting unrealistic expectations of what constitutes success. Not worrying and comparing one’s self, one’s family and one’s relationship to the “successful” self, family and relationship.
The instant fulfilment of what society views as success is really not realistic for the majority of us. Nor should it be. So the next time you are enticed by that thought of, “I want that now” work hard to overcome the temptation and try to answer like the five year old, “not now”.